"Husbands, love your wives,
just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy,
cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to
himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but
holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as
their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
After all, no one ever hated
his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church--for
we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and
mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." However,
each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must
respect her husband."
God never intended the husband's leadership role to be of one of cruel or
abusive dominance over his wife, in fact, God has so designed this role that the
husband has to be in submission to Jesus Christ, just as his wife is in
submission to him, as it is written in 1 Corinthians 11:3,
"Now I want you to realize
that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the
head of Christ is God."
We must be aware of this fact - God Almighty is a just, holy and merciful God.
He is love and His principles and laws reflect who He is. Therefore, the way a
husband treats his wife is of significant importance to God and Our
Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. The Holy Bible admonishes husbands who profess to
be believers and followers of Jesus Christ to treat their wives well if they
want God to listen to their prayers, as it is written in 1 Peter 3:7,
the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with
respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of
life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers."
The wife's role in a godly marriage is of significant importance and it is a
role that is divinely assigned by the Creator, God Almighty. The wife is
required to live in submission to the authority of her husband, as is
written in Ephesians 5:22-24,33
to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife
as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to
their husbands in everything. However, each one of you also must love his wife
as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
Women, especially those who live in the western hemisphere, may recoil at this
principle of submission. However, if we are believers and followers of Jesus
Christ, we must all ask ourselves this one crucial question - Do I live my
life my way or God's way? Each of us has to make that decision as to
whether to live in obedience to God's principles and laws or disobedience. The
basis of a wife's submission to her husband is respect for his divine position
of authority in the home. In addition, submission to the divinely assigned
authority vested in the husband is not determined by whether the husband is a
believer or not, as it is written in 1 Peter 3: 1-6,
" Wives, in the
same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe
the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,
when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not
come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold
jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the
unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's
sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God
used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands,
like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters
if you do what is right and do not give way to fear."